When James Inman died from complications of Parkinson's disease, his family knew just what to do. The World War II veteran had picked out his coffin and the plaque for his gravesite, and had determined that the U.S. flag would be draped, not folded, over his casket.
Those weren't the only gifts the Massachusetts man gave his family; he had also made his medical wishes very clear.
"He completely unburdened us and took all of that off of our plate," said son-in law-Jim Desrosiers. "It was one of the most unselfish things I ever experienced."
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As Inman lost consciousness during what would be the last two weeks of his life, his family could tell the doctors that he did not want to have his life artificially prolonged.
"That decision, while he was unconscious, was guilt-free," said Desrosiers. "We knew we were just executing his wishes."
All too often, families have the opposite experience. Their loved one may have failed to designate a health care "agent," someone to direct their care if they can't. Or perhaps they never bothered to execute a living will, or talk to family members about their wishes.
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Nathan Kottkamp has seen these stressful situations up close. An attorney who specializes in health care, he sits on the ethics boards of four Virginia hospitals. When there's no one designated to make health care decisions, or when families are arguing over what to do for their ill relative, the cases often end up before these ethics boards.
He remembers one instance of a single mom with two young children who was put on a ventilator after suffering complications during surgery. There was no one to make decisions for her, and no indication of what she wanted. Two court cases later, the hospital was finally able to provide appropriate care for her, and a guardian was named for her children.
"It was not just traumatic to the individual involved," he said, "but to everyone in the health care team."
These painful experiences are "so preventable," says Kottkamp, which is why he has launched National Healthcare Decisions Day. Designated as April 16 (right after income tax day because as Kottkamp says, the only things certain in life are death and taxes), it's a day to nudge families to think about "who will stand in your shoes when you can't speak for yourself," said Kottkamp. "I think the single most important thing to do is name somebody. You can name someone the health care team can interact with. You should tell them what is important to you."
Kottkamp started this grassroots effort eight years ago, after the Terri Schiavo case riveted the nation. Schiavo spent 15 years in what doctors said was a persistent vegetative state, while her husband and parents fought a legal battle over whether to prolong her life. Ultimately a court sided with her husband, who wanted to remove Schiavo's feeding tube. She died 13 days later.
National Health Care Decision Day has grown into a nationwide effort supported by hospital, hospice and medical associations.
"We all know that 100 percent of us are going to die, but starting the conversation is often hard," said Ellen Goodman, a Pulitzer Prize-winning columnist and founder of The Conversation Project. The project is designed to help families start a conversation around their wishes if they are ill or incapacitated.
The organization grew out of Goodman's experience when her mother became ill and passed away.
Source: http://abcnews.go.com/Health/end-life-discussion-sick-talk/story?id=18927257
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